Love and Marriage

1. FIRST MEETING

How did you meet your spouse and what first attracted you to them?

• What were your initial thoughts or feelings after meeting them?

• Was there a moment you realised they were someone special?

• How did your relationship progress in the early stages?

2. COURTSHIP

Can you describe your courtship and how your relationship developed?

• What activities or interests did you share during your courtship?

• How did you and your spouse overcome any challenges or disagreements during this time?

• Were there any significant moments or events that strengthened your relationship?

3. WEDDING TRADITIONS

What traditions or cultural practices were part of your engagement and wedding?

• How did these traditions reflect your and your spouse’s cultural backgrounds?

• Were there any customs that were particularly meaningful or memorable for you?

• Did you and your spouse personalise your engagement or wedding to suit your preferences?

4. FAMILY REACTION

How did your family and friends react to your relationship and marriage?

• Were there any memorable reactions or responses from your loved ones?

• How did your family and friends support your relationship?

• Did you receive any advice or wisdom about marriage from your elders or peers?

5. SHARED VALUES

What values or beliefs do you and your spouse share that have strengthened your marriage?

• Can you describe these values or beliefs and why they are important to you both?

• How have these shared values helped you navigate challenges in your marriage?

• How do you and your spouse ensure that these values continue to guide your relationship?

6. DISAGREEMENTS

Can you talk about how you and your spouse handle disagreements or conflicts?

• What approaches or strategies do you find most effective for resolving conflicts?

• Can you share an example of a conflict you overcame and what you learned from it?

• How has your approach to handling disagreements evolved over time?

7. REWARDING ASPECTS

What have been some of the most rewarding aspects of your marriage?

• Can you share specific moments or experiences that have brought you joy and fulfilment?

• How has your spouse’s companionship enriched your life?

• What aspects of your marriage are you most grateful for?

8. CHANGE

How has your marriage changed or evolved over the years?

• Can you discuss any phases or transitions that have significantly impacted your relationship?

• How have you and your spouse grown or changed together?

• What factors do you believe have contributed to the longevity and resilience of your marriage?

9. COMMUNICATION

What role do communication and understanding play in your relationship?

• How do you ensure open and honest communication with your spouse?

• Can you share an example of how understanding and empathy have strengthened your bond?

• What advice would you give about the importance of communication in maintaining a healthy relationship?

10. SUPPORT

How do you and your spouse support each other’s personal growth and aspirations?

• Can you discuss how you encourage and facilitate each other’s goals and dreams?

• How do you balance your individual interests with your commitments as a couple?

• Can you share an example of a time when your spouse’s support was particularly impactful?

11. PARENTHOOD

How has parenthood influenced your marriage?

• Can you describe the transition to parenthood and how it affected your relationship?

• How do you and your spouse navigate the challenges and joys of raising children together?

• What lessons about love and marriage do you hope to pass on to your children?

12. RELATIONSHIP TRADITIONS

What traditions or routines do you and your spouse have that keep your relationship strong?

• Can you describe these traditions or routines and why they are important to you?

• How do these practices help maintain your connection and intimacy?

• Have you adapted or created any new traditions over time?

13. WORK/RELATIONSHIP BALANCE

How do you and your spouse balance your professional lives with your relationship?

• What strategies or approaches do you use to ensure quality time together?

• Can you share how career demands have impacted your relationship and how you manage them?

• How do you support each other’s professional endeavours while prioritising your marriage?

14. CELEBRATION

Can you talk about a particularly memorable or meaningful anniversary or celebration?

• What made this occasion special or significant for you and your spouse?

• How did you celebrate or commemorate this milestone?

• What reflections or sentiments did you share with each other during this time?

15. FINANCES

How do you and your spouse manage and discuss financial matters in your marriage?

• What principles or agreements guide your financial decisions as a couple?

• Can you share an example of a financial challenge you faced together and how you addressed it?

• How has your approach to financial management contributed to the strength of your relationship?

16. FAMILY AND FRIENDS

What role do extended family and friends play in your married life?

• How do you and your spouse integrate your relationships with family and friends into your life together?

• Can you discuss a time when the support of your extended family or friends was particularly important?

• How do you manage any differences or conflicts between your married life and your relationships with others?

17. DECISION MAKING

How do you and your spouse approach decision-making and planning for the future together?

• Can you describe your process for making significant decisions or setting long-term goals?

• How do you ensure that both your voices and perspectives are considered?

• Can you share an example of a major decision or plan you made together and how it has impacted your life?

18. CULTURE

How has your cultural background influenced your perceptions and practices of love and marriage?

• What aspects of your cultural heritage do you see reflected in your marriage?

• How do you preserve or adapt cultural traditions within your relationship?

• Are there any cultural expectations or norms that you have challenged or reinterpreted in your marriage?

19. DIFFICULTY

Can you discuss a time of difficulty or uncertainty in your marriage and how you navigated it together?

• What were the circumstances, and how did they affect your relationship?

• How did you and your spouse support each other during this time?

• What did you learn about your relationship and each other through this experience?

20. HOBBIES

What hobbies or interests do you and your spouse enjoy together, and how do they enhance your relationship?

• Can you discuss a shared hobby or interest and what it means to you both?

• How do these activities contribute to your connection and enjoyment of each other’s company?

• Have you discovered or developed any new shared interests over time?

21. LITTLE MOMENTS

How do you celebrate and appreciate the small, everyday moments in your marriage?

• Can you share examples of simple, daily gestures or interactions that are meaningful to you?

• How do these moments contribute to the overall happiness and health of your relationship?

• What significance do you find in recognising and cherishing these everyday experiences?

22. ADVICE

What advice would you give to a couple just beginning their journey of love and marriage?

• Based on your experience, what wisdom or guidance would you offer?

• Are there any lessons or insights you wish you had known at the start of your marriage?

• What do you believe are the key ingredients for a lasting and fulfilling relationship?

23. PASSION

How do you ensure that romance and passion remain alive in your marriage?

• Can you discuss ways you and your spouse keep the spark alive in your relationship?

• How do you navigate changes or fluctuations in intimacy and romance over time?

• What advice can you give about maintaining a deep and meaningful connection with your spouse?

24. TRUST

Can you talk about the importance of trust and security in your relationship?

• How do you build and maintain trust with your spouse?

• Can you share an experience where trust played a critical role in your relationship?

• What measures or practices do you believe are essential for fostering a secure and trusting partnership?

25. PERSONAL SPACE

How do you and your spouse approach personal space and independence within your marriage?

• How do you balance your individual needs with your commitment to each other?

• Can you discuss a time when respecting personal space or independence was particularly important?

• What advice do you have for couples about honouring each other’s autonomy while maintaining a close bond?

26. TRAVEL

What impact has travel or shared experiences had on your relationship?

• Can you discuss a memorable trip or experience you shared with your spouse?

• How have these shared experiences influenced your relationship or understanding of each other?

• Why do you believe travel or new experiences are important in a marriage?

27. HEALTH

How do you approach challenges related to health or ageing within your marriage?

• Can you share how you and your spouse support each other during health challenges or as you age?

• What adjustments or accommodations have you made to ensure each other’s well-being?

• How has navigating these challenges together affected your relationship?

28. FORGIVENESS

Can you discuss the role of forgiveness and understanding in your marriage?

• How do you approach situations that require forgiveness or understanding?

• Can you share an example of a time when these qualities were essential in resolving a conflict or issue?

• What have you learned about the power of forgiveness and understanding in maintaining a healthy relationship?

29. ACHIEVEMENTS

How do you and your spouse celebrate and acknowledge each other’s achievements and successes?

• Can you discuss ways you show appreciation for each other’s accomplishments?

• How do these celebrations or acknowledgments contribute to your mutual support and encouragement?

• Why do you believe it’s important to recognise and celebrate each other’s successes in a marriage?

30. RETIREMENT

What discussions or plans have you and your spouse made for your later years or retirement?

• How do you envision your life together in retirement or as you grow older?

• What preparations or discussions have you had to ensure a fulfilling and secure future?

• How do you approach the topic of ageing and future planning in a positive and proactive way?

31. OPINION

How do you and your spouse navigate differences in opinions, beliefs, or values?

• Can you share a time when these differences were particularly evident or challenging?

• How do you ensure that these differences enrich rather than hinder your relationship?

• What advice can you give about respecting and learning from each other’s perspectives?

32. PATIENCE

Can you talk about the importance of patience and tolerance in your marriage?

• How do you practise patience and tolerance in your day-to-day interactions?

• Can you discuss a situation where these qualities were crucial to resolving an issue or maintaining harmony?

• What have you learned about the role of patience and tolerance in sustaining a loving and respectful relationship?

33. EXPECTATIONS

How do you and your spouse handle societal or familial expectations about your marriage?

• Can you discuss any pressures or expectations you have faced and how you addressed them?

• How do you balance these external influences with your own desires and priorities as a couple?

• What advice do you have for couples facing similar societal or familial pressures?

34. HUMOUR

What role does laughter and humour play in your relationship?

• Can you share examples of how humour has enriched your marriage or helped you through tough times?

• How do you incorporate laughter and light-heartedness into your daily interactions?

• Why do you believe a sense of humour is important in a relationship?

35. PERSONAL GROWTH

How do you and your spouse navigate times of personal growth or change?

• Can you discuss a time when you or your spouse were undergoing significant personal growth or change?

• How did you ensure that your relationship adapted and thrived during this period?

• What advice can you give about nurturing each other’s growth while maintaining a strong connection?

36. COMPROMISE

Can you discuss the role of compromise and negotiation in your marriage?

• How do you approach situations that require compromise or negotiation?

• What is an example of a successful compromise or negotiation in your relationship?

• What have you learned about the importance and practice of compromise in a healthy partnership?

37. TRANSPORTATION

How have responsibilities for driving and transportation evolved in your relationship, and who typically takes the wheel?

• Who learned to drive first, or who is the primary driver between you and your partner, and how was this decided?

• What kind of vehicle do you both prefer for your family or couple's needs, and why?

• How do you manage long trips or daily commutes together, and have there been any memorable moments related to these journeys?

38. HOUSEHOLD RESPONSIBILITIES

What discussions or agreements do you have about managing household responsibilities?

• How do you divide or share household tasks and responsibilities?

• Can you discuss a time when adjusting or negotiating these responsibilities was particularly important?

• What advice can you give about ensuring fairness and cooperation in managing a household together?

39. GROWTH

How do you ensure that your marriage continues to grow and evolve over time?

• Can you discuss ways you and your spouse actively work to deepen and enrich your relationship?

• How do you embrace changes or new phases in your marriage?

• What do you believe are the keys to a continuously evolving and strengthening partnership?

40. AFFECTION

Can you share how expressions of love and affection have changed or remained constant in your marriage?

• How do you and your spouse express love and affection to each other?

• Can you discuss how these expressions have adapted to different stages of your relationship?

• What importance do you place on maintaining and nurturing physical and emotional intimacy in your marriage?