Focus: Explore your parent’s birthplace, childhood, family tree, and ancestral roots.
Questions
CHILDHOOD FRIEND
Can you talk about your earliest childhood friend and the impact they had on your life?
How did you meet and what common interests did you share?
Can you share a memorable story or experience with this friend?
Are you still in touch, and how has your friendship evolved over time?
LIFE LESSON
Reflect on a friendship that taught you an important life lesson.
What was the situation, and what lesson did you learn?
How did this friendship shape your future relationships?
What advice would you give to others based on this experience?
DIFFICULTY
Discuss a time when a friend helped you through a particularly difficult period.
What challenge were you facing, and how did your friend assist you?
How did this support impact your friendship?
What did this experience teach you about giving and receiving help?
CAREER
How did your friendships influence your career or personal development?
How did you meet those friends, and what drew you to them?
What was the most valuable piece of advice or guidance they gave you?
How do they influence your life today?
LONG FRIENDSHIP
Reflect on a friendship that has lasted over many years.
How have you and your friend managed to maintain your bond through different life stages?
What activities or interests have kept you connected?
How has your friendship evolved or changed over time?
DIFFERENT CULTURE
Talk about a friend from a different cultural or ethnic background and what you learned from that relationship.
How did your different backgrounds influence your friendship?
What challenges did you face, and how did you overcome them?
What did this friendship teach you about diversity and understanding?
MISUNDERSTANDING
Discuss a time when you had a misunderstanding with a close friend and how you resolved it.
What was the misunderstanding, and how did it arise?
What steps did you take to resolve the issue?
What did you learn about communication and resolving conflicts?
COMMUNITY FIGURE
Can you describe a significant figure in your community who influenced your values or beliefs?
Who was this person, and what role did they play in the community?
What specific values or beliefs did they instil in you?
How do you embody these values or beliefs in your life today?
LOST FRIENDSHIP
Reflect on a friendship that ended and how you coped with the loss.
What led to the end of the friendship?
How did you deal with the feelings of loss or change?
What did you learn about relationships and letting go?
GROUP OF FRIENDS
Talk about a group of friends you were part of and how it shaped your social interactions.
What was the nature of the group?
How did your involvement impact your relationships and social skills?
What lasting effects has this group had on your life?
GROWING APART
Discuss a friendship where you and your friend grew apart and how you navigated this change.
What caused the drift in your friendship?
How did you handle the changing dynamics?
What did you learn about the nature of friendships and change?
FRIEND IN NEED
Can you talk about a time when you were a friend when someone else needed you, and how that experience was for you?
How did you meet their needs, and in what context?
What challenges and rewards did you experience through this experience?
How did being there for someone else impact your own life or perspectives?
UNDERSTANDING YOURSELF
Reflect on a significant relationship that helped you understand more about yourself.
What was the nature of the relationship?
What aspects of yourself did this relationship reveal or challenge?
How did this self-awareness affect your personal growth?
ADVICE
Discuss a time when a friend’s advice significantly altered your decision or path.
What was the situation, and what advice did they give?
Why was this advice so influential at the time?
In hindsight, how do you feel about the decision and its outcomes?
THRIVING IN SEPARATION
Can you describe a friendship that thrived despite distance or long periods of separation?
How did you maintain your connection over distance or time?
What challenges did you face, and how did you overcome them?
What makes this friendship endure despite the obstacles?
HOBBIES
Talk about a friend who introduced you to new hobbies, interests, or ways of thinking.
What new experiences did this friend introduce you to?
How did these new interests change or enhance your life?
What impact has this friend’s influence had on your personal development?
ENDING ON GOOD TERMS
Discuss the impact of a friendship that ended on good terms, and what you learned from that relationship.
Why did the friendship conclude, and how did you both handle the parting?
What positive memories or lessons do you hold from this relationship?
How has this experience influenced your approach to future friendships?
SUPPORT IN CRISIS
Reflect on a friendship where they played a significant supportive role during a crisis or major life event.
What was the situation you were facing?
How did they provide support or assistance?
What did this experience teach you about empathy and support?
CULTURAL AND SPIRITUAL VIEWS
Can you talk about a friendship that has significantly impacted your cultural or spiritual views?
How did this friend influence your perspectives?
What discussions or experiences contributed to this impact?
How have your views evolved as a result of this friendship?
SETTING BOUNDARIES
Discuss a time when you had to set boundaries in a friendship and how you handled it.
What led to the need for boundaries, and what were they?
How did you communicate and enforce these boundaries?
What did you learn about maintaining healthy relationships?
FACING A CHALLENGE TOGETHER
Reflect on a friendship where you and your friend overcame a significant challenge together.
What was the challenge you faced?
How did working through this challenge affect your friendship?
What strengths or qualities did this experience reveal in each of you?
TRUST
Can you discuss the role of trust in your relationships and a time when trust was tested or strengthened?
What does trust mean to you in the context of friendship?
Describe the situation where trust was tested or reinforced.
How did this experience affect the level of trust in your relationship?
LAUGHTER
Talk about a friend who always knows how to make you laugh, and the importance of humour in your relationships.
What makes this friend’s sense of humour compatible with yours?
Can you share a memorable moment or inside joke?
How has humour helped you through tough times in your life?
GIVING AND RECEIVING
Discuss how you balance giving and receiving in your relationships and a time when this balance was particularly important.
How do you ensure a fair exchange of support and care in your friendships?
Describe a situation where the balance of giving and receiving was crucial.
What did this situation teach you about reciprocity and fairness in relationships?
UNEXPECTED
Can you describe a friendship that started under unusual or unexpected circumstances?
How did you meet, and what brought you together?
What challenges did you face in building this friendship?
How has this friendship defied or surpassed your initial expectations?
FORGIVENESS
Reflect on a relationship that has taught you the most about forgiveness and reconciliation.
What was the conflict or issue that required forgiveness?
How did you reach a point of reconciliation?
What did this process teach you about forgiveness and healing?
TRANSITIONS
Talk about a friend who has been with you through life's major transitions and how they have supported you.
What transitions have you and your friend experienced together?
How has your friend provided support or stability during these times?
What makes this friendship resilient in the face of change?
ASSIST IN REALISING POTENTIAL
Discuss a time when you helped a friend realise their potential or achieve a significant goal.
What potential or goal did your friend have, and how did you support them?
How did your encouragement or support make a difference?
What did you learn about motivation and empowerment from this experience?
LIFESTYLE INFLUENCE
Can you describe a friendship that has significantly influenced your lifestyle or habits?
What changes did this friendship inspire in your life?
How did your friend model or encourage these changes?
What lasting impact has this friendship had on your daily routines or choices?
ADVENTURE
Reflect on a time when you and a friend embarked on a new adventure or project together.
What was the adventure or project, and what inspired you to start it?
What challenges did you face, and how did you address them?
What did this shared experience teach you about collaboration and partnership?
PERSONALITY DIFFERENCE
Talk about a friend who has a very different personality from you, and how this difference has enriched your friendship.
In what ways are you and your friend different?
How have these differences complemented or challenged your relationship?
What have you learned or gained from having a friend with a different perspective?
VULNERABILITY
Do you recall a particular instance when you risked being emotionally open with a friend, leading to a deeper connection between you?
Do you believe being emotionally vulnerable is important in friendships?
How did this experience influence your relationship?
What thoughts can you share about intimacy and trust based on this experience?
SHARED INTEREST
Can you describe a friendship that blossomed from a shared passion or interest?
What is the passion or interest you share, and how did it bring you together?
How do you nurture this shared aspect of your relationship?
What impact has this friendship had on your engagement with this passion or interest?
PATIENCE
Reflect on a friendship that has taught you the most about patience and understanding.
What challenges or differences required patience and understanding in this friendship?
How did you cultivate these qualities in your relationship?
What lessons have you learned about empathy and acceptance from this friend?
WISDOM
Who amongst your friends always offers wise advice or guidance, and how do you value their perspective?
What kind of advice has this friend provided, and why do you trust their judgement?
Can you share an example where their advice was particularly impactful?
How has this friend’s wisdom influenced your decisions or life path?
FRIENDSHIP THROUGH UPS AND DOWNS
Discuss how you’ve maintained friendships through life’s ups and downs, and the importance of resilience in relationships.
What challenges have you and your friends faced together?
How have you supported each other through these times?
What does resilience in friendship mean to you, and why is it valuable?
FRIENDSHIP LATER IN LIFE
Can you describe a friendship that began in your later years and how it differs from friendships formed earlier in life?
How did you meet, and what brought you together?
What benefits or challenges does this later-life friendship present?
How do friendships formed later in life compare to those from your youth or adulthood?
DIFFERENCES IN LIFESTYLES
Reflect on a friendship where you and your friend have very different lifestyles or beliefs, and how you navigate these differences.
What are the key differences between you and your friend?
How do you respect and handle these differences in your friendship?
What have you learned from having a friend with a different lifestyle or set of beliefs?
INSPIRATION
Talk about a friend who inspires you to be your best self, and the impact they’ve had on your personal growth.
In what ways does this friend inspire you?
How do they motivate or encourage you to grow?
What changes or improvements have you made as a result of this friendship?
CONFIDENTIALITY
Discuss the role of trust and confidentiality in your friendships and a time when this was particularly important.
Why is trust and confidentiality vital in your relationships?
Describe a situation where trust and confidentiality were crucial.
How did handling this situation impact your friendship and your view on trust?